The Path to Happiness and Letting Go of Suffering

The Path to Happiness and Letting Go of Suffering

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We all suffer in this world, to one degree or another, but yoga offers ways to mitigate it. The first step is to become aware of the causes of suffering, which according toPatanjali ‘sYoga Sutra, are the five kleshas (CLAY-shas), a word meaning “pain, affliction, distress.”

Isavidya, or self-ignorance, is at the basis of these troublemakers’ actions. As a result, according to Patanjali, we are unaware of our genuine selves; we are unable to connect with the everlasting, unchanging witness to life’s pleasures and sufferings. Instead, we cling to and identify with our ego (asmita), which restricts our consciousness and isolates us from the rest of the universe; this is called attachment. When we separate from the world, it causes us to become enmeshed in it. This enmeshedness results in the development of toraga, the attachment to pleasure, which causes us to grasp selfishly at what we want and jealously guard what we have.

All of these kleshas serve to increase our feelings of isolation and incompleteness.

However, in India, where the majority of the population believes in reincarnation, clinging to life, like clinging to everything else, is a cause of suffering.

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This workout might help you get rid of your kleshas. Close your eyes and relax in a comfortable chair (or recliner). Allow your brain to rest by taking slow, deep breaths. Then you should question yourself, “Who am I?”. Count off the seconds between each repetition of this phrase, without expecting or anticipating an answer. Simply ask the question and be patient; carefully ponder each response before letting it go and asking the question again: “Who am I?” By posing this question, you are presenting alternatives to what appears to be obvious: that you are a distinct individual with limited time and space.

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5 Practices for Nurturing Happiness – Thich Nhat Hanh – Lion’s Roar

Photo courtesy of the Unified Buddhist Church. We all want to be happy, and there are several publications and teachers across the world that are dedicated to assisting people in becoming happier. Despite this, we are all still suffering. As a result, we may believe that we are “doing something wrong.” We are, in some ways, “failing at happiness.” That is not correct. The ability to experience happiness does not imply that we have experienced no hardship. In truth, the art of pleasure is also the skill of enduring difficult circumstances gracefully.

  1. But we are also capable of going much farther and transforming our sorrow into insight, compassion, and joy for ourselves as well as others.
  2. This does not imply that we should give up hope.
  3. As soon as we open our mouths to express the word “suffering,” we are aware that the opposite of suffering is already there in the same place.
  4. According to the biblical book of Genesis, God declared, “Let there be light.” This is the first word in the creation myth.

“There is a gloomy atmosphere.” “If that’s the case, then I’m already there,” Light responded.

One of the most difficult things for us to accept is that there is no realm where there’s only happiness and there’s no suffering. This doesn’t mean that we should despair. Suffering can be transformed.

Unified Buddhist Church (photo courtesy of Wikimedia Commons) Happiness is something we all seek, and there are many publications and teachers across the globe that are dedicated to assisting people in their pursuit of it. But despite this, we are all still suffering. So we could imagine to ourselves that we’re “doing something wrong.” “We’re failing at happiness,” in some way, it seems. Obviously, this isn’t correct! The ability to experience happiness does not imply that we are free of sorrow.

  • It is much easier to cope with our pain when we learn to accept, embrace, and comprehend it.
  • That there is no place where only happiness and no sorrow exists is one of the most hardest things for us to accept as a fact of life.
  • Even the most painful experiences may be changed.
  • In the biblical book of Genesis, God declared, “Let there be light.” This is the beginning of the creation tale.
  • The darkness prevents me from being there.” ‘Why are you making me wait?’ God inquired.
  • “If that’s the case, then I’m already there as well,” Light responded.

Healing Medicine

The most serious ailment of our contemporary civilization is that we are unable to deal with the anguish that exists within us and instead resort to a flurry of material consumption to mask it. Various products are sold by retailers to assist us mask the pain we are experiencing on the inside. However, until and until we are ready to confront our pain, we will be unable to be fully present and accessible to life, and happiness will continue to evade us as a result. There are many people who are experiencing excruciating pain and are unsure of how to deal with it.

  • So why aren’t our schools educating our children on how to cope with their suffering?
  • Each of us suffers, and our suffering has an impact on others.
  • In order to be with our pain without becoming overwhelmed by it, mindfulness is the most effective technique.
  • Consider the fact that when we lift our two arms, we are fully aware of the fact that we are lifting our arms.
  • To be mindful is to be aware of one’s surroundings.
  • Lifting our arms and being aware of the fact that we are lifting our arms is mindfulness, or awareness of one’s own behavior.
  • As soon as we take a step and are aware that other steps are being taken, we are cognizant of the steps.

There is always something to be attentive of when practicing mindfulness. We may become more aware of what is going on in our bodies, our feelings, our perceptions, and the world around us when we have more awareness of what is going on in our bodies.

With mindfulness we are no longer afraid of pain. We can even go further and make good use of suffering to generate the energy of understanding and compassion that heals us and we can help others to heal and be happy as well.

With mindfulness, you may become aware of the presence of suffering in both yourself and the rest of the world. In the same way, you compassionately embrace the pain with that same energy. Because you are conscious of your in-breath and out-breath, you are able to develop the energy of mindfulness, which allows you to continue to hold the suffering. Meditation practitioners may assist and support one another in noticing, accepting, and changing their experiences of pain and suffering. We no longer fear pain because we have learned to be attentive of it.

Generating Mindfulness

The first step in creating mindfulness medicine is to pause and take a conscious breath, paying entire attention to both our in-breath and our out-breath at the same time. When we come to a complete halt and take a deep breath in this manner, we integrate body and mind and return to ourselves. We are more in touch with our body. We are only genuinely alive when our minds are in sync with our bodies. The good news is that oneness of body and mind may be achieved simply by taking a single inhalation.

When we become aware of the tightness, the pain, and the stress in our bodies, we may bathe them in our attentive awareness, which is the first step toward healing.

If, on the other hand, we are consumed with our own feelings of dread and despair, we will be powerless to alleviate the pain of others.

If we understand how to alleviate our pain, we not only suffer significantly less, but we also contribute to the creation of more happiness in our immediate environment and throughout the globe.

Why the Buddha Kept Meditating

When I was a young monk, I was perplexed as to why the Buddha continued to practice mindfulness and meditation after he had attained the status of buddhahood. Now I’ve discovered that the solution is rather obvious. Happiness, like everything else, is a fleeting emotion. If you want your happiness to last longer and be rejuvenated, you must understand how to feed your happiness properly. Nothing, even happiness, can exist without food; if you don’t know how to properly nurture it, your happiness may perish as well.

We can condition our bodies and minds to happiness with the five practices of letting go, inviting positive seeds, mindfulness, concentration, and insight.

However, even if happiness has already begun to surface, we must continue to nurture it.

Conditioning is a term used to describe this process, and it is extremely crucial. It is possible to condition our bodies and brains to be happy by engaging in the five disciplines of letting go, attracting positive seeds, being attentive, concentrating, and seeing clearly.

1. Letting Go

One of the most effective ways to bring about joy and happiness is to throw off, or leave behind. When you let go, there is a certain sense of relief. Many of us are tethered to a slew of different things. In order for us to survive, feel secure, and be happy in our lives, we think that these things must be done. However, many of these things—or, more accurately, our views about their absolute necessity—are really barriers to our joy and satisfaction. You may believe that possessing a specific occupation, diploma, salary, home, or relationship is essential to your happiness at times.

  1. Even after you have accomplished that condition or are in the company of that person, you will continue to suffer as a result.
  2. You are unable to live with it, and you are unable to live without it.
  3. You have the ability to let go of the past.
  4. Happiness, on the other hand, comes extremely swiftly once you let go.
  5. Consider the following scenario: you are a city person who is taking a weekend getaway to the countryside.
  6. However, it also has a great deal of options and excitement to offer.
  7. “I’m sorry, but I can’t,” you may say at first.
  8. “I’m afraid I’m going to miss an essential call.” Then you are convinced to leave by him, and an hour or two later, you find yourself in the countryside with nothing to do.
  9. You can see the sky, and you can feel the air brushing over your face.
  10. How would you have been able to feel such happiness if you hadn’t left?

2. Inviting Positive Seeds

Many different types of “seeds” exist in each of us, buried deep inside our subconscious minds. Those we water are the ones who sprout, rise to our level of consciousness, and present themselves in the world. As a result, there is hell and there is also paradise within our own awareness. We have the ability to be compassionate, understanding, and joyous in our lives. If we just pay attention to the bad aspects of ourselves, particularly the anguish caused by past injuries, we will be wallowing in our sorrows and will receive no beneficial sustenance as a result.

  1. That is nutritious for our mental well-being.
  2. Because nothing lives in isolation from its polar opposite, if you have a seed of arrogance, you also have a seed of compassion.
  3. If you cultivate awareness of compassion on a daily basis, the compassion seed that exists inside you will become stronger.
  4. To be expected, arrogance diminishes when compassion is displayed.

We have the ability to choose water the healthy seeds while refraining from watering the bad seedlings. This does not imply that we should dismiss our pain; rather, it implies that we should provide attention and sustenance to the positive seeds that are already present in our lives.

3. Mindfulness-Based Joy

Mindfulness allows us to connect with pain in order to accept and transcend it, but it also allows us to connect with the beauties of life, including our own body, since it allows us to be present in the moment. Then taking a deep breath may be a pleasure, and exhaling can also be a pleasure. You genuinely grow to appreciate the act of breathing. I had a virus in my lungs a few years ago that caused them to hemorrhage, and I had to have them removed. I was spewing blood at the time. It was difficult to breathe with those lungs, and it was much more difficult to be joyful while breathing with those lungs.

  • To recall the period when my lungs were infected with this virus, all I have to do now when I breathe is think back to that time.
  • In practicing mindfulness breathing or mindfulness walking, we return our thoughts back to our body, allowing us to become more present and grounded in the present moment.
  • Joy and happiness arrive very immediately.
  • Happiness may be found through practicing mindfulness.
  • You can wash your dishes mindfully if you want to.
  • You can sweep the floor while maintaining your focus.
  • You have the talent of a true artist.
  • This is the delight and contentment that comes from practicing mindfulness.
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4. Concentration

Mindfulness is the seed from which concentration grows. With concentration, you have the ability to break through, to burn away the ailments that cause you pain, and to enable pleasure and happiness to enter your life. Concentration is required in order to remain in the current moment. Worries and worry about the future are constant companions, waiting to draw us away from our lives. The ability to recognize them and acknowledge them as well as the ability to utilize our focus to return to the present moment When we are concentrated, we have a lot of energy at our disposal.

Living firmly in the present moment allows us to connect with the wonders of life and to develop joy and happiness as a result of our experiences.

If you concentrate on your breathing in a calm and relaxed manner, you are already creating inner strength.

Concentrate on your breathing with all of your heart and mind when you are able to return to feeling your breath. Concentration is not the same as manual labor. You are not required to exert excessive effort or strain yourself. Happiness is a state of mind that occurs naturally and effortlessly.

5. Insight

It is through awareness that concentration is borne. Concentration has the ability to burst through, to burn away the ailments that cause you pain, and to open the door to joy and contentment. Keeping one’s attention on what is happening right now requires effort. We are constantly plagued by worries and anxieties about the future, which threaten to consume us. We may recognize them, acknowledge them, and utilize our attention to bring ourselves back to the present. With focus comes a lot of energy, which is great for sports.

  1. Living firmly in the present moment allows us to connect with the wonders of life and to develop joy and happiness as a result of our experience.
  2. Concentrating on your breathing in a calm manner is a good first step towards developing inner strength.
  3. Consciousness is not the same as hard work.
  4. With ease and grace, happiness appears.
The essence of our practice can be described as transforming suffering into happiness. It’s not a complicated practice, but it requires us to cultivate mindfulness, concentration, and insight.

We may be aware that something (such as a need or a grudge) is a hindrance to our pleasure, that it causes us tension and dread, and that we should avoid it. We are well aware that this situation is not worth the sleep we are missing because of it. Yet, despite this, we continue to obsess about it, devoting our time and attention to it. We’re like a fish that has been caught before and has learned that there is a hook within the bait; if the fish uses this knowledge to his advantage, he will not bite since he knows he will be caught by the hook if he does.

  1. We become entangled and emotionally connected to events that are not worthy of our attention.
  2. As pollen levels in the air rise in the spring, some of us experience difficulty breathing as a result of allergy-related symptoms.
  3. Instead of grumbling about the cold in the winter, when there is no pollen, we may recall how we couldn’t go outside at all in April and May, when there was pollen.
  4. We actively call on our prior experiences in order to assist ourselves appreciate the wonderful things that are happening right now in our lives.
  5. It could have even felt like a type of hell at times.
  6. “I have the ability to be happy”—that is insight; and at that instant, our delight and happiness may increase really fast.
  7. It’s not a difficult practice, but it does need the development of mindfulness, attention, and insight on our part.
  8. The process asks us to let go of pointless and unwanted pains while also considering our own definition of happiness.
  9. To ourselves, our families, and the rest of the community, we offer these practices for consideration.
  10. With each breath, we alleviate pain while also generating delight.

The blossom of understanding blooms with each step that is taken. Thich Nhat Hanh’s book, No Mud, No Lotus: The Art of Transforming Suffering, was published in 2014 by the United Buddhist Church. Parallax Press has granted permission for this publication.

Suffering and Letting Go

Pain is an unavoidable fact of life. Suffering, on the other hand, is not. The act of clutching results in suffering. Allow yourself to be free of misery by releasing your clutching. Anyone who has had even a cursory introduction to Buddhist doctrine is familiar with its beginning point: the unavoidable fact that existence is accompanied by suffering, as stated by the Buddha. The First Noble Truth is referred to as such. But, oh, how difficult it is to accept this reality in its whole. The Noble Truths, which teach the knowledge of suffering and how to put an end to it, are the most important of all the maps of Buddhist psychology because they are the most fundamental.

  1. When it comes to the Four Noble Truths, they are written out in the same way as a psychiatric diagnostic is: symptoms, causes, possibilities of cure, and the therapeutic path.
  2. Conflict, anxiety, despair, tension, obsession, bewilderment, mental illness, divorce, problems at work, with family, or with the law, unfulfilled creativity, or unrequited love are all examples of suffering that must be voluntarily acknowledged as such.
  3. We, too, are witnesses to their anguish.
  4. Pain is an inescapable element of the natural world’s landscape and ecosystem.
  5. When we are in our human incarnation, we are always experiencing an ups and downs of pleasure and agony, gain and loss.
  6. The Third Noble Truth provides us with a way out, with the ability to put an end to our suffering.
  7. Suffering is produced by our reaction to the unavoidable suffering that comes with being human.

However, pain is not limited to the individual.

That which we are called upon to comprehend and alter is individual and community suffering, which is known as the First Noble Truth (the First Noble Truth).

Gripping, according to the book, gives rise to aversion and illusion, and from these three roots spring all other unpleasant moods, including envy, anxiety and hatred.

These are the factors that contribute to individual and global misery.

Suffering, in contrast to pain, is not unavoidable.

This state of complete freedom is referred to as nirvana.

The way to the cessation of suffering is represented by the Fourth Noble Truth.

In the middle path, we are invited to find serenity wherever we are, in the present moment.

Following the middle way enables us to create integrity, learn to calm the mind, and observe with insight, among other things.

They instill in us the importance of not running away.

This is the expectation placed on everyone who want to awaken.

However, in some respects, it encourages us to just accept our misery, which Freud referred to as our “ordinary degree of neurosis.” “The purpose of psychoanalysis is to claim a bit more ego from the enormous sea of id,” as Sigmund Freud put it in his famously resigned words.

However, accepting the reality of natural sadness on a philosophical or psychological level is a bad way to conclude the tale.

The Four Noble Truths hold out the prospect of much more. They are a comprehensive and systematic collection of psychological concepts and teachings that we might apply to eliminate the root causes of pain from the present moment onward. We can achieve freedom by gaining a knowledge of them.

Buddha And The Path To Happiness

To be human means to experience pain. Affliction is not the same thing as suffering It is the act of grabbing that causes suffering. Allow yourself to be free of misery by releasing your grabbing hand. The beginning point of Buddhist teaching is well-known to everyone who has even a cursory knowledge of the subject: the unavoidable fact that existence is accompanied with suffering. The First Noble Truth is referred to as just that: the first. This fact is hard to accept, though, since it is so uncomfortable.

  • The realization that freedom and joy are attainable in the face of the sorrows of human existence is the ultimate goal of Buddhist psychology, which includes its ethics, philosophy, practices, and communal life as well.
  • When people come to us for aid, whether we are healers, therapists, or friends, we are first and foremost witnesses to their distress.
  • We, too, are witnesses to their anguish and frustration.
  • An inevitable part of the natural world is that it brings with it some level of discomfort.
  • When we are in our human incarnation, we are always experiencing an ups and downs of pleasure and agony, gain and loss, and so on.
  • In the Third Noble Truth, we are offered a way out, a means of putting an end to our pain.
  • It is our response to the unavoidable sorrow of life that causes us to suffer.

Nonetheless, personal pain is not limited to this.

That which we are called upon to comprehend and transform is individual and social suffering, which is the First Noble Truth.

Gripping, according to the book, gives rise to aversion and illusion, and from these three roots spring all other harmful emotions, including jealously, anxiety and hatred.

Individual and global suffering are caused by these factors.

Pain, on the other hand, is not an unavoidable state of affairs.

Nirvana is the term used to describe this state of complete liberation from all restrictions.

Middle-of-the-road is the term used to describe this route.

Our awareness and freedom can be found in the middle of our pleasures and sufferings provided we don’t grasp at or oppose life in any way.

According to the Four Noble Truths, we must face our pain, both physical and mental discomfort, as well as the pain of the entire world.

Finding our independence can only be accomplished by boldly opening ourselves up to the suffering of the world as it is right now.

We should remember, as Joseph Campbell puts it, that “the first step to the awareness of the wonder and mystery of existence is in the acknowledgment of the hideous character of the terrestrial human sphere, as well as the splendor that it contains.” In addition to acknowledging pain, Western psychology does so in great depth.

“The purpose of psychoanalysis is to claim a bit more ego from the enormous sea of id,” Sigmund Freud famously stated in his typically resigned manner.

However, accepting the reality of natural sadness on a philosophical or psychological level is a bad way to conclude the narrative.

A lot more is promised by the Four Noble Truths. They are a comprehensive and systematic collection of psychological concepts and teachings that we might apply to eliminate the root causes of pain from the present moment forward. We can achieve freedom only if we comprehend their perspective.

Buddha: A Little Background

The Tokyo National Museum houses an early Gandharan figure of Buddha from the first to second century CE. Siddhartha Gautama of Shakya, also known as the Buddha, was born in modern-day Nepal, near the Indian border, somewhere between the late 6th and early 5th century BCE. Siddhartha Gautama of Shakya eventually became known as the Buddha. However, while there are various mythological traditions surrounding his conception and birth, the fundamental facts of his existence are universally accepted.

  • Despite his father’s efforts to keep him away from the harshness of life, he walked beyond the castle walls one day and came face to face with three facets of existence: the elderly, the sick, and the dead.
  • As a result of this experience, he came across an ascetic who, by choice, chose to live a life devoid of the pleasures of this world.
  • In response to these horrific events, Buddha decided to leave his luxurious existence in quest of a more meaningful purpose in life.
  • Following this, he practiced meditation under a bodhi tree, where he attained Enlightenment via intense concentration (Dhyana).
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The ProblemThe Solution: The Four Noble TruthsThe Eightfold Path to Happiness

These Four Noble Truths, monks, are real, unwavering, and unalterable; nothing further can be spoken. As a result, they are referred to as noble truths. (56.27) of the Samyukta Nikaya

Buddha taught his followers theFour Noble Truths as follows:

1. Dukkha is/means life (mental dysfunction or suffering). 2. Craving is the source of dukkha. 3. Dukkha can be eradicated from one’s life. 4. The Eightfold Path is the path that leads to the cessation of dukkha. Buddha felt that dukkha eventually emerged as a result of ignorance and erroneous information. While dukkha is typically understood as suffering, the term “mental disorder” is more accurate in capturing the original meaning. The Buddhist philosopher Huston Smith defines dukkha by comparing it to a shopping cart that we “attempt to guide from the wrong end” or to bones that have become “out of joint” (Smith, 1991, p.

101). Because of this mental mismatch, whatever action, ideas, or product that results from it will never be completely pleasing to the individual. In summary, we will never be entirely satisfied with our lives.

Buddha: The Eightfold Path

Wisdom (correct view/understanding, right purpose), ethical behavior (right speech, right action, right livelihood), and mental cultivation are all important aspects of life (righteffort, right mindfulness,right concentration).

Right View/ understanding Wisdom
Right Intention/ thought Wisdom
Right Speech Ethical Conduct
Right Action Ethical Conduct
Right Livelihood Ethical Conduct
Right Effort Mental Cultivation
Right Mindfulness Mental Cultivation
Right Concentration Mental Cultivation

The Eightfold Path is a practical and methodical path out of ignorance, removing dukkha from our thinking and our way of life through the practice of mindfulness in our thoughts and deeds. It is given as a comprehensive system, but the three routes linked with the field of mental development are particularly pertinent to the happiness that may be found in equanimity, also known as peace of mind, and are discussed more below.

Equanimity: Peace of MindHappiness

If a person notices a large pleasure after leaving a tiny pleasure, he or she should leave the small pleasure and turn to observe the great pleasure. Mulligan and Maguire (2002, p. 290 of the Dhammapada). Happiness is sought for in Buddhism via the use of knowledge and practice in order to establish mental tranquility. Equanimity, or peace of mind, is acquired in Buddhist thought by distancing oneself from the cycle of desiring that results in suffering, or dukkha. As a result, by attaining a mental state in which you can detach from all of your passions, needs, and desires in life, you liberate yourself and experience a level of ultimate happiness and well-being.

  • Following the Buddha’s advice, his followers should strive for “tranquility” and “insight,” believing that these are the mental characteristics that would bring them to Nirvana, or Ultimate Reality.
  • In specifically, the areas of mental development that comprise the correct effort, the right awareness, and the right focus are the mental abilities and techniques that are employed in the pursuit of pleasure.
  • In the Eightfold Path, he proposes that we practice “proper effort” by first avoiding and then cleaning our minds of negative, unwholesome ideas, as recommended by the Buddha.
  • As a result of this continual effort, a state of mind that is suitable to the practice of mindfulness and concentration can be fostered (meditation).
  • The Buddha believed that it was essential to cultivate proper awareness in all parts of one’s life in order to see things as they truly are, or, in other words, to “stop and smell the roses,” in order to perceive things as they truly are.
  • Contemplation of the body; 2.
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  • Observation and contemplation of phenomena For the most part, mindfulness is about being present in the present moment with an attitude of openness and curiosity about everything and everyone around you.

Through the practice of proper mindfulness, one may liberate oneself from passions and desires that so frequently keep us slaves of our past regrets or future preoccupations.

Right Concentration and Meditation

A monk who has chosen to live in a bare cell because he has a calm mind knows an unearthly pleasure in gaining a clearer and clearer perception of the true law with each passing day. 2003, p. 373 of the Dhammapada; MüllerMaguire, 2002.) In order to transform your mind, Right Concentration is a mental discipline that you can practice. Known as the “meditation core practice,” right concentration is a fundamental activity in Buddhist thought and practice because it is the foundation of the discipline.

According to Buddha, there are four stages of deeper concentration called Dhyana:

1.The first level of focus is characterized by the disappearance of mental obstructions and impure intents, as well as the attainment of a state of happiness. 2.In the second stage, all mental activity come to a stop, and just happiness remains as the only thing left. 3. In the third stage, happiness begins to fade away on its own accord. The ultimate stage is characterized by the disappearance of all feelings, including bliss, and the appearance of entire serenity of mind, which Buddha defined as a “deeper sense of contentment.” The followers of Gautama are constantly alert, and their thoughts are always filled with compassion at all times of the day and night.

  1. There are several accounts of Buddha’s compassion and regard for all life.
  2. The manner he lived and died demonstrates that he learned a valuable lesson.
  3. According to legend, Buddha died after being unintentionally poisoned by a devotee.
  4. It is necessary to take an unflinching look at a reality in which all of existence is seen as dukkha, or mental disorder, in order to progress toward a more profound type of bliss.
  5. Because Buddhism has such a dim perspective of reality, it’s possible that pleasure in Buddhism is very abundant; the teachings of Buddha call to a comprehensive engagement with the realities of everyday life.
  6. Equanimity, as well as a profound sense of well-being and enjoyment, may be achieved via appropriate knowledge and practice in everyday life.
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Lessons from Buddha: On Suffering and Letting Go — the kokoro garden

Do you recall the Buddhist proverb that states that attachment is the source of all suffering? It’s possible that you’ve come across it previously. I’d heard it used as an encouraging quotation and heard it debated by Buddhist friends, but I’d never fully grasped what it meant until recently. When we say attachment, we are referring to the desire to possess something. Status, money, physical possessions, and prestige are all important. Alternatively, an aversion to anything – such as physical discomfort, certain emotions, certain circumstances, or particular individuals – might be expressed.

  1. To desire or to be averse to anything is to be human.
  2. What’s the amusing part?
  3. There are many different sorts of pain that may occur in life.
  4. However, there are certain characteristics of pain that we may exert some control over in our daily lives.
  5. We are distressed because we do not have access to these resources.
  6. If you don’t have a large enough house, you’ll feel embarrassed about your existing residence rather than embracing and appreciating your surroundings.
  7. If we allow ourselves to be consumed by a need to constantly have more and we do not keep it under control, we will rapidly lose sight of our own pleasure.

So, what can we do to put a stop to this?

We may put a stop to our misery by restricting our wants.

It seems simple enough, doesn’t it?

It is what distinguishes us as human beings and as living beings.

Nonetheless, it is difficult.

What can we do to lessen these urges that appear to be so deeply ingrained in us?

Allow yourself to be free of the belief that you require certain things.

Release our conviction that life should be a certain way and that certain events should place in a specific way.

There’s a good reason why Buddhism is seen as a lifetime endeavor.

By being content with what we have, we can put a stop to our suffering.

Perhaps keeping a thankfulness notebook is the answer.

Perhaps it’s a casual conversation with a girlfriend over a cup of coffee or a glass of wine.

However, the more we learn to understand and accept things, and the less we struggle against them, the more enjoyment we will discover – and the less sorrow we will have to bear.

Take a few deep breaths. And then simply let it go. Is there a method in which you can practice acceptance in your daily life? What exactly is it that you’re up against? Is there something going on in your life that is giving you discomfort or distress?

Thich Nhat Hanh: The Art of Letting Go

Thich Nhat Hanh, a Zen Buddhist teacher, offers some thought-provoking advice on what it means to completely let go of one’s worries. A lot of people think of detachment or non-clinging as a sign of aloofness or emotional distance from others, but as Thich Nhat Hanh argues, fully letting go often means falling in love with someone much more than you already do. The Buddha taught that detachment, one of the disciplines on the Noble Path, also known as ariyasaavaka, is neither a physical act of separation or even a type of austerity, but rather a mental state of being detached from one’s surroundings.

  1. Misinterpretations of this nature are unfortunately widespread, owing to the fact that there are not always exact translations from the Paali language into English.
  2. According to Master Hanh, in order to genuinely let go, we must learn to love more totally.
  3. For example, Hanh discusses four different types of full detachment that, according to popular belief, are not about hunkering down in a cave and forgetting about everyone who has broken your heart, or forgetting about your sexual urge or hunger for a love interest.
  4. Letting go entails jumping in headfirst.

Maitri (Not the Love You Know)

Hanh emphasizes the significance of Maitri, rather than love in the traditional sense of the term in the Westernized sense of the word. According to him, the first facet of pure love is maitri (metta, in Pali), which is the goal and ability to provide joy and happiness to others. In order to acquire that ability, we must practice seeing and listening intently so that we can understand what to do and what not to do in order to make other people feel good. If you give your sweetheart something she does not require, you are not practicing maitri.

As a result, your detachment may be manifested in your acceptance that some actions you would typically do to make another person feel loved and valued may not be appropriate for the person you are actively loving at the time.

He goes on to say that we need to be more careful with our terminology.

The word’maitri’ derives from the word mitra, which means buddy in Sanskrit. The basic concept of love in Buddhism is friendship, which is a relationship between two people. The basic concept of love in Buddhism is friendship, which is a relationship between two people.

Karuna (Compassion)

Compassion is the next level of real detachment to attain. When we let go, we don’t cease delivering a caring touch, a compassionate word, or a compassionate gesture to someone who is in distress. We also do not anticipate to be able to alleviate their distress or suffering. Compassion, on the other hand, is accompanied by great worry. It is not a state of aloofness. It is not a state of seclusion from others. It is because the Buddha understands why pain and suffering exist and because he also understands how to transform them that he smiles.

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Gratitude and Joy

When you fully let go, you are practicing thankfulness. It is only when we are filled with appreciation for everything that we have that we are no longer clinging to any other wished-for consequence that we experience mudita, or pleasure. The Buddha’s idea of happiness is more along the lines of ‘unselfish happiness.’ It implies that we experience happiness not just when something wonderful happens to ourselves, but also when others experience happiness. It’s possible that if you’ve ever had to say goodbye to a loved one or a friend so that they could continue on their life’s path–one that may or may not have intertwined with yours–you’ve felt sadness when they found someone new to love or made a new friend who seemed to take your place.

When you experience happiness, even when others experience happiness–and it has little or nothing to do with you–joy arises.

Upeksha (Equanimity)

Master Hanh reveals the last attribute of real love, which throws a great deal of light on the true process of releasing oneself from a relationship. His explanation is as follows: “Upeksha” (equanimity), “non-attachment,” “nondiscrimination,” “even-mindedness,” “letting go” are the four elements of pure love, according to him. The words upa and iksha signify ‘over’ and ‘to look,’ respectively. You ascend the peak in order to be able to see the entire situation without being constrained by one side or the other.

People who are unfamiliar with Buddhism may believe that upeksha refers to apathy, yet real equanimity is neither frigid nor indifferent in any situation.

You love in such a manner that your love is received equally by all of your children, without distinction.

When our lover is more like the wind, or a butterfly, or a stream, we attempt to put them in our pocket and take them with us, but they are more like the wind, or a butterfly, or a stream, and they need to move and flow or they would perish.

This isn’t love; this is a form of devastation. When it comes to love, it must have components of compassion, joy, and equanimity–and this is what it means to let go completely.

The Art of Letting Go is Artless

In reality, letting go is not an art form; rather, it is a state of being, a state of allowing. Unattached relationships are healthy, solid relationships that are filled with easy love, kindness, and compassion. Your sense of’self’ is no longer asserted in every scenario, making it a truly selfless act. If you want to fully let go, you must love more, not less, in order to do so. This is the most widespread misconception regarding the Buddha’s precious teachings, and it is also the most damaging.

Thich Nhat Hanh on Life, War and Happiness

Thich Nhat Hanh, the prominent Zen teacher, died on Saturday at the age of 95 in the Vietnamese city of Hue, at the temple where he had been living for many years. He was a prolific novelist, poet, and teacher who believed in “engaged Buddhism,” which he defined as the application of Buddhist ideas to societal challenges as well as to everyday life. He has written several books, given lectures, and given interviews that have been published. Here is a small collection of his opinions.

On slowing down

The urge to run, seek, search, or battle is no longer necessary. It’s okay to just be. The most profound practice of meditation is just being present in this place at this time. It is difficult for most people to think that simply wandering as if you had nowhere to go is sufficient.” In his words, ‘My practice is the practice of not practicing,’ the Buddha said. That signifies a great deal. Put an end to any and all fighting. Rest, relax and let yourself to be.” “Although many talk of reaching nirvana, we have already reached it.

“Get in the habit of pausing.”

On death

“We are most concerned about the possibility of being nothing after we die. We have a common misconception that our entire existence is comprised of a single life span that begins the minute we are born or conceived and ends the moment we die. We believe that we are created out of nothing and that when we die, we return to being nothing. Consequently, we are gripped by a sense of impending doom.” The Buddha holds a totally different perspective on our life than we do. It is the acceptance of the fact that birth and death are concepts.

Simply because we believe they are real creates a tremendous illusion that is the source of our pain.

We simply have a hunch that there is.

It is a tremendous relief. “We may take pleasure in and appreciate life in a new way.” This is not my body in any way. I am not constrained by my physical limitations. I am life as it exists without limitations. No, I have never been born, and no, I have never died. I am eternal.

On meditation

“Taking a deep breath in, repeat after me, ‘in the here, in the here.'” While breathing out, repeat after me: “in the moment, in the now.” Despite the fact that they are two separate terms, they both signify the same thing. I have arrived in the here and now, I have arrived in the here and now of things. In this place, I feel at ease. “I am at home in the present.” “Pls don’t put up any effort when you are practicing meditation or walking meditation. Allow yourself to feel at ease, just like that stone.

You are taking a break while you are walking.

Then you’ll be able to take care of the things that are happening inside of you, as well as the things that are happening around you.” “It’s okay to just be.

On war

“We are fully aware that airplanes, weapons, and bombs will not be able to dispel false perceptions. Individuals may only be helped to change incorrect views by loving discourse and caring listening. The problem is that our leaders have not been schooled in such discipline, and they rely solely on military might to combat terrorism.” To prepare for war and offer millions of men and women the option to kill day and night in their hearts is to sow millions of seeds of violence, wrath, frustration and dread that will be carried down through generations.

On mindfulness

“Mindfulness allows you to bring yourself fully into the present moment, allowing you to experience the wonders of life that are accessible to you at that time.” “There are many individuals who are living, but they haven’t experienced the marvel of being alive.” “Drink your tea carefully and respectfully, as if it were the axis around which the entire world revolved – slowly, evenly, and without looking ahead to the future.” Live in the present moment.

“There is just this moment of existence.”

On suffering

“We have a natural tendency to flee from pain and seek happiness wherever we can. However, in reality, if you have not suffered, you have no chance of experiencing true happiness.” According to Buddhist teachings, we should refrain from trying to escape from suffering. You must confront your own suffering. The nature of suffering must be investigated thoroughly in order to identify its source, the source of the suffering.” “It’s difficult for people to let go of their suffering. Because they are afraid of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is known to them.”

On fear

“The majority of us live lives that are filled with both good and terrible experiences.

For many of us, even when we are at our happiest, dread lurks under the surface of our happiness.” “Not only is fearlessness possible, but it is also the ultimate source of joy. When you come into contact with nonfear, you become free.”

On happiness

In other words, “There is no road to happiness; happiness is the way.”

The Art of Mindfully Letting Go With Buddha’s Four Noble Truths

Approximately twenty-five hundred years ago, the Buddha was compared to the first psychologist, instructing his followers on the need of altering their mental processes in order to reduce emotional anguish and accept change. One of his ideas was the four noble truths, which assisted individuals in breaking free from the habits of thinking and behavior that were causing them distress in the first place. Examining the four core Buddhist principles can help us to better appreciate how micromanaging our surroundings may cause us to feel irritated and limited.

As a result, when we learn to let go of our attachments, we have the ability to modify our life in a creative manner.

They are: Only in the present moment will we be able to summon the courage to cross the threshold of the unknown and surrender to the inevitable changes we cannot escape.

It’s a beautiful compass to navigate by.

As a result of the ephemeral nature of things, there is sorrow in life, according to the first noble truth.

The unpredictability of life thus teaches us that even if we do everything “right” and take every care, we may still suffer an unexpected loss.

Over and over again, rather of surrendering to the inevitability of change and collaborating creatively with it, individuals revert to the fear-based behavior of attempting to seize control and force other people and things into conformity with their expectations.

While it’s not a good idea to entertain pessimistic views about how things could end out, willfully disregarding the truth that all situations change sets you up for a major surprise when the time comes to face the consequences of your actions.

You may get angry, unhappy, and disappointed as a result of your inability to escape change.

Even though you are aware that you will be unable to change the circumstance, you may experience agonizing about it.

Holding on to the hope of a future set of circumstances that is comparable to the past prevents you from finding what better routes lie ahead, just out of reach.

The third noble truth is that it is possible to put an end to suffering by letting go of attachments (clinging) and hopes (grasping).

The second stage is to acknowledge that we must extend our understanding of what we require in order to be happy, which includes letting go of our habits of clutching and grabbing, as well as our desire to exert control over our external circumstances.

The third noble truth, on the other hand, holds up the prospect of a new way of life that is as rewarding, if not more so, than the old.

To relieve suffering caused by clinging and grasping, the fourth noble truth states that one must maintain equilibrium while living in the present now.

Maintaining your sense of balance helps you to live in the present moment and trust that your acceptance will clear the mist of uncertainty and distractions, and show you the path to moving ahead into happiness once more.

Whenever we cling to the past or to things that are no longer useful to us, we contract ourselves to the point that we become incapable of being nourished and re-energized by the current moment.

We must accept that what has happened in the past has genuinely happened in order to be receptive to what the present moment has to give us. We are nourished, replenished, and renewed as a result of this openness.

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